Data from across the European Union over the past fifty years — including Slovakia — show that happy marriages are far from guaranteed. The number of marriages has dropped by half, while divorces have doubled.“There is no universal recipe for a successful marriage, but there are questions that couples should ask each other before saying ‘I do’. Answering these honestly can prevent many crises — not only in their lives, but also in the lives of their children,”says Martina Lysinová, a family law specialist at L/R/P Attorneys.

Is There a Manual for a Happy Marriage?

As a lawyer focused on family law, who often guides clients through difficult divorces, I know there is no one-size-fits-all guide to a happy marriage or an easy solution to life’s crises.

My goal is not to moralize or judge. Rather, I want to open a conversation: what can we do — individually and as a society — to support more stable relationships, and thus, a better future for ourselves and especially for our children, growing up in complete and functional families? Doing so could prevent countless hardships and tragedies.

Why Do Marriages End?

While infidelity might be the expected culprit, it’s actually not the most common cause.

In most cases, couples cite “irreconcilable differences.” On the surface, it sounds straightforward: disagreements about raising children, religion, leisure time. Frequent arguments, growing tension, and a toxic home environment seem to justify separation.

But if we rewind to the early days of the relationship — back when the couple decided to marry — we must ask: did they truly discuss the fundamental questions? Did they know each other’s values, visions for the future, parenting styles, or conflict resolution methods?

Even the Family Act mentions that love alone is not enough for a successful marriage.

In What Sense?

From the very first paragraph, the Slovak Family Act sets out a key requirement for a successful marriage: a man and woman intending to marry should know each other's character and health status beforehand.

In practice, this is often underestimated.

From a legal standpoint, if a couple cites “irreconcilable differences” as grounds for divorce, one could argue they are admitting to neglecting that legal requirement. In extreme cases, a court could say: “You broke the law — you didn’t know each other well enough.”

Of course, life is more complicated. People change, unpredictable situations arise, and no one can foresee everything before marriage. But honestly — how many of us even know such a paragraph exists in the law? How many treat it as a formality instead of recognizing the serious consequences of ignoring it — not just for ourselves, but especially for our children?

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